And then there were 5…(generations)

The passage of time is so sneaky, we hardly note the ‘tick-tick-tock’ of life’s clock.  Then one day we awake and realize that we have grown old(er) {see: Old in San Diego, from the August 2011 blog archive}.  Sometimes it is sad, as when we realized that our childhoods were really over; and sometimes it represents relief, as when I finally exited my 20’s…that Generation-X thing was not for me.  However, during those very early days of my 20’s, I clearly remember the birth of my niece Nichole…I was then still in college and off to Salzburg, Austria to study the German language with my life-long friend Richard.  Now here comes the ‘sneaky’ part…

That little baby girl–which is how I will always think of her (unfair, I know)–has just given birth to her own little girl after a few years of marriage to her fine young man of a husband, Shawn.  Like a shot in the arm, this birth raised the awareness of all my immediate family members, but I must say that it was I who recognized first that my family has 5 living generations.  My grandmother (just shy of 100 years old), my parents (both in their 80’s), my siblings (basically 50-something’s all), my nieces (early/mid 20’s), and now my GREAT niece–which sounds so weird–at scarcely one week old.

Suddenly we are all actually grateful for the passage of time, as not so many families out there can enjoy the designation of having 5 living generations.  But it is really humbling to think of what these family members have seen over the course of 100 years, and indeed, what we have all shared together:  the joys, the withering/mind numbing heartaches, the fun, the food, the arguments, the silly grudges, and the “what’s still to come”.  While my Aunt bravely battles cancer, my Mother seems to defy age; as my Father quietly manages a body shattered by a life of hard labor, my Grandmother lives in the quiet enclave of her mind; as my Sister begins a personal life anew, my Brother watches his three daughters become young women and mothers; as my Nieces have children, or wallow in the glow of their boyfriend, or diligently study and acerbically journal their lives, I continue to wander the world in search of applause and relevance…

But goodness only knows WHAT little Blakely Marie will see in her lifetime!  As Louis Armstrong sang so very well…”They’ll learn much more than I’ll ever know…”

Now, if I can only orchestrate the taking of a single photo of these 5 generations, I will have pulled off quite the coup.  Might be hard, as the distance of several states separates us all.  But don’t count it out…what a photo finish that would be!!!


23 Comments so far

  1. Gretchen H. June 4th, 2012 7:37 pm

    Mr. Cangelosi,
    I have been reading your columns for some time now, and I am never disappointed in your always well written and thoughtful commentary on your business, but also the forays into your personal life. Thank you for sharing so very much of yourself through the written word!
    Gretchen Hanriot

  2. Amelia B. June 4th, 2012 8:53 pm

    Thsi was really a beautiful way of remembering your entire family.

  3. Wilson T. June 4th, 2012 8:56 pm

    How nice to honor your family with this posting

  4. Joycelyn A. June 4th, 2012 9:12 pm

    How i wish my own kids were as thoughtful as you express yourself to be!

  5. Margaret M. June 4th, 2012 9:38 pm

    So beautifully written.

  6. Sally B. June 4th, 2012 9:43 pm

    Lovely David. Good luck on that photo.

  7. Randall B. June 4th, 2012 10:04 pm

    How poignant David. You write the best blog I have ever read.

  8. Nichole C. June 4th, 2012 10:36 pm

    Uncle David, this is such a lovely post! I will be printing a copy to put in Blakely’s baby book, so she can look back on it. Love to you and can’t wait for you all to visit.

  9. Mary C. June 4th, 2012 10:55 pm

    David you almost had me in tears with your beautiful thoughts and beautiful writing. Everything you wrote
    is so true…I love you very much…Excuse previous
    tries but I was very overcome with emotion…

  10. Carlton F. June 4th, 2012 11:30 pm

    Thsi should be submittted for wider publication. It is so well written and should make most people think of their lives in a nice way.

  11. Paula D. June 5th, 2012 12:51 am


  12. Sun Yi L. June 5th, 2012 1:00 am

    Mr. David Cangelosi:
    I think that this article was just so honoring of your family. I also love when you write reviews of performances that you have seen. This is the first time I am writing a comment, but just felt that I had to.

  13. Sandra A. June 5th, 2012 1:09 am

    beautifully written

  14. Sylvia M. June 5th, 2012 6:35 am

    This editorial waas a real tear-jerker. Not sure if that was your intent, but it makes me remember my parents and grandparents who passed away so very long ago. I loved your Mime in Siegfried when you were in San Francisco. Will you do that again?

  15. Mike B. June 5th, 2012 9:33 am

    When we were in school David, I rememeber your singing all the time. How great to have found your webstie through Face Book.

  16. Judith J. June 5th, 2012 10:49 am

    How much more lovely could this post have been Mr. Cangelosi?? It is so well written and obviously timely at this point in your life.

  17. Virginia M. June 5th, 2012 11:36 am

    David: this really DID bring tears to my eyes. Our Cangelosi grandparents have been gone for so long…and my mom and dad died so young. I miss all of them every day and wish they were around for me to comment on. Loved this post. Cousin Virg Marino

  18. Joanne O'C. June 5th, 2012 1:00 pm

    Just super David, thank you reminds me so much of our generations. Treasure the times and always hug your Mother. I can not believe your Mother is that age, she is gorgeous. As I look at her photo above me. Look what you will be able to tell your Great niece about your life of travels and applause, you are relevant.

  19. Lucy L. June 5th, 2012 2:00 pm

    Wow..this made me cry. My grandmother is 102 but my parents both passed away. I can see how important it seems to have so many generations still alive. Your family should be grateful, which I’m sure they are.

  20. Harvey R. June 5th, 2012 2:51 pm

    David; we went to school together, although I am sure you do not remember me. I am so impressed with what you have done with your life. One of our classmates told me you were doing very well. Your FaceBook page is open to all, and this is how I found your most recent website blog. I read through many of the others and cannot tell you how interesting they all are. My life isn;’t nearly as exciting as yours, adn this is why I kept reading.

  21. Birinder S. June 5th, 2012 2:54 pm

    Someone sent me this blog-posting who thought it was beautiful and concise, as well as approprately sentimental. Thank you for this fine bit of writing.

  22. Sean K. June 5th, 2012 5:50 pm

    This was a very powerful retrospective and forward looking posting, as well. My compliments to you, Mr. Cangelosi

  23. Lawrence T. June 5th, 2012 6:19 pm

    Wow; how great!!

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